I got married when I was 19 years old. I got divorced at 24. Those years were the some of the worst times in my life. First my ex husband was so mean to me. Always calling me names and treating me bad. I was nothing but caring and supportive to him. And when I told him I wasn’t going to stay and take it anymore that’s when he decided to change his ways because he knew what he had and didn’t want to lose it. But I stuck to my word and I left, well we both went our separate ways. Looking back on it now I realize that it was the best decision ever.
Being single has its advantages, and its disadvantages. But I just love that no one can tell me what to do or what not to do. I can date who ever I want and go anywhere, be anyone, do anything. I’m in a relationship now and I wouldn’t have met him if I didn’t get divorced and move 1000 miles away. I have never met anyone so sweet and caring before. Totally opposite of my ex. But would I want to get married again?
I really don’t see why marriage is the next step in a relationship. To me that’s when people change and then when you think you know someone you really don’t know them at all. Why can’t we just stay boyfriend and girlfriend? Its cheaper and easier to move on if things don’t work. If I got married again it would be for the right reasons. Reasons I don’t know at the moment. Tax purposes? Maybe but being single and independent, I can get grants to finish school!
When I was married, I couldn’t finish school because my ex made too much money, to qualify for grants, however we were always broke so I couldn’t pay to go to school and I didn’t want to take out a ridiculous amount of money in loans.
I don’t know about you but I’m not ready to be tied down again. I still have to finish school and start my career and life before I get married again.
